What Are Your IAS Dreams Made Of?

Engraved-Cairn-Sculpture-Wish-it-Dream-it-Do-itThousands of people from different walks of life appear for the UPSC exam every year. College students, graduates, post-graduates, post-doctorates, working professionals, and homemakers alike go through gruelling months of preparation to gear themselves up for the exam.

What motivates these people to invest so much time and effort, spread over months and even years, to write the civil services exam? Not to mention, spending money on coaching classes at a top IAS academy. What makes these aspirants take such a long time-out from regular life to put in their blood, sweat, and toil on the arduous journey towards IAS success. For the moment, let us forget about the others. We will start with you.

Why do you want to become an IAS officer? 

This question is probably the most famous one (or infamous one, depending on who you ask) used in IAS personal interviews. One, for which you aspirants most likely have got pat answers at the ready, to impress the heck out of your interviewers. Some IAS coaching centres specifically train candidates on how to answer it. But have you asked yourself the question before? And what was the most honest answer you came up with?

Are You Joining IAS For The Right Reasons? 

“But why does this matter anyway?” you might ask. Because there are right reasons and there are wrong reasons for joining the IAS. It is important you know that you are travelling down this path for the right ones. Asking yourself these hard questions would help you become aware of where your IAS dreams come from and see if the civil services are indeed a good fit for you to realize them.

Possible Motivations Behind Your IAS Dreams 


We can guess at some of the reasons you probably came up with. Mind you, this is not a mutually exclusive list. As a matter of fact, it would not be a good idea if you have only one reason in mind. A career in IAS is not a light decision to be taken on an impulse. So, there had better be more than one reason why you are taking it up in the first place. Let us look at the reasons in some detail.


Most aspirants at the personal interviews probably give “service” or a variation thereof as the primary motivation behind their IAS dreams – To serve the people, to serve the country, to give back to society, to make a difference. Very noble intentions that not everyone is capable of having. It is possible that you have undergone life experiences that have been responsible for making this career choice of yours. You feel IAS is the way to go to achieve your life dreams. But you also need to explore if it is possible to do the same using a different channel. There have been instances of people quitting the service, to forge a more independent path towards their life goals. So, be utterly sure that you are willing to work with, and within the state machinery, to make a difference to the society at large or the country itself.


Who doesn’t love wielding a bit of power while doing good to others? If you do not let it go to their head and use it wisely and responsibly, you can achieve great things in your IAS career.


Doesn’t everyone want to make a mark or leave a legacy during their time of earth? A career in IAS is a perfectly reasonable way to go about it. It can be a great impetus to achieve remarkable things for social development.


Come on. We are human. It is possible we are going to enjoy the fawning attention and deference shown to IAS officers. As long as there is no sense of entitlement or a penchant for misuse, it is perfectly ok to enjoy the perks that come with a civil services job.


This is one of the wrong reasons we were talking about. Sad it may be, but it is true that government jobs give more opportunity for illegal gains than the private sector ones. But if money is indeed a motivation, surely there are higher paying and rewarding jobs out there than in the civil service.


Another wrong reason would be to join the civil services for the sole purpose of serving the interests of one section of people against another or being instrumental in influencing policy-making to that effect.

So, examine what your IAS dreams are made of. Ensure that you are in it for the right reasons before you even embark on the journey. Only then can you have a long and gratifying career in the Indian civil services.


When we complete two revolutions round the sun..

When we officially complete two revolutions round the sun hand in hand, I must say life is the biggest adventure we ever hit.


This moment, this breath we have taken, is a blessing. We had been together for each other from the day we met to till date. It’s been a wonderful journey more of worries and most of happiness! The drop of sadness we converted to happiness. The mess of tears we transferred to the pearls of smile. I won’t say it was the best two years of my life, But I would say it was better when I had a person beside me always when I want to lend a shoulder. He is there with me now for more than three years but after marriage is always a challenge. There were harder times, the worst days in our life, the sleepless worries in our head, unwanted thoughts in our mind. I m proud that we covered it together. We successfully passed the storms that came on our way till now. May be things will get worse or it will be better, but I m happy that life gave me much love throughout these years. Almighty gave us a tweeny tiny one with us to celebrate together. Life gave us a lovely bunch of people to enjoy together. Life gave us a pot full of bliss to cherish always.When it is two years, so many things around changed! The air around is getting changed every moment!
Let the love between us shattle, rattle, cherish and nourish. Let the bond between us loosen and tighten to feel the togetherness. Let the life fly beyond. Let he be always with me to say ‘I love you to the moon and back!’ Always. Forever. Till the last breath!

This moment! I take this for granted!


Thank you Almighty!

Thank you to my parents who believed in me and in my choice of life partner. My lifelines Aashi, Vichu, Shakkir 😊 All sweet ladies of my life Divya, Ameena, Lakshmi, Limiya, Soorya, Sana, Sri Di Ashy 😊 All machomans who mend it together Amal Thomas Leslie, Vishnu Vijay, Nitro, Arju, Fraza, KP, KD, Manu, Remees, Darshith😊 All those sweethearts who made us feel home when we came to the new country Jennifer, Uspi, Thomas, Thambi, Seban, Cici, Neethu, Paul, Nimmy, Chinju, Fijo, Aswin and many more

My tiny tots Mayasa and Natasha with the bunch of crazy sister and cousins!


Without you people Nimi, Femees and Daniyal is incomplete

Sudha Murthy- The Perfect Role Model For Simplicity, Grit, Brilliance, And Benevolence


In life, we often look up to some people with awe, totally bowled over by their persona. In my case, I was always in awe of women who dared to do something different and something which goes against the social stigmas. I had this perfect ally in the form of my friend, Eivine Renny, who works in a reputed Web Designing Company based in Chennai and Tirunelveli. We both used to delve deep into the lives of awesome women who made the world stop and look at her in awe. We would read about such women together and also discuss how these women are a perfect example of a role model.

Recently, we stumbled on the tale of Sudha Murthy, the chairperson of Infosys Foundation, a well-known philanthropist, an intriguing author, the seed investor and backbone of Infosys. The tale of Sudha Murthy is indeed awe-inspiring one as she was one badass who dared to tackle all the hurdles thrown in her way and move forward with the determination to achieve more.

Clad in simple cotton sarees, she sports the adornment of simplicity and casts spell with her actions and talks. Sudha Murthy is undoubtedly a woman who sports different hats all at once. Being someone who loves to travel a lot, she is a globetrotter who is ever ready to pack her bags and explore the world. Besides that, she is an excellent homemaker, a smart engineer and an irrepressible social worker. She made heads turn back in the 60s by boldly opting for a bob haircut which was in those days considered as a highly outrageous act by a woman.

Stepping Into The Male-Dominated Engineering!


Unlike the present advanced era of smart women engineers, back in the 1960s, engineering was not considered as a woman’s cup of tea. Defying norms, Sudha decided to pursue engineering and stepped in as the only female engineering student among 150 students. The college never had a female student and hence, didn’t have any facilities for females, not even a women’s toilet. She was greeted with jeers; boys never left a stone unturned to insult her by spilling ink on her chairs and shooting paper planes her way. But, she remained strong and focused on her studies. In any exam, everyone knew the exam results beforehand. Sudha would always top the exams, and her name would be the first one that goes on the wall. Sudha remained unfazed at the taunts of her classmates as her goals were much bigger even in those teenage days.

Courtship With Narayana And Pre-Infosys Plannings!


When Narayana and Sudha started to court each other, Narayana was penniless and broke. The couple used to explore almost all restaurants and cinema halls in Pune and Narayana would always ask Sudha to pay his share, and he would return it one day when he gets a proper paying job. Sudha used to jot down the money Narayana owed her in a book, and after long three years, the debt counted to Rs.4000. Later, Sudha tore up the book just before her wedding with Narayana and Narayana too never returned the money as the relation had turned to be a bond of love rather than money.

Reaching Out To The Horizons With Solo Trips!

Even in today’s advanced world, still, some of us may hesitate to embark on a solo trip. But, Sudha was never the one to be stopped. After marriage, Sudha decided to explore the world on a solo trip with due encouragement by Narayana. She stepped out with a backpack and explored the world on solo for long three months. She was even arrested once by the New York police as they mistook her to be a part of the Italian drug trafficking mafia group. She also spent one night with an old couple under the Grand Canyon. We had thought we only see such things in films whereas Sudha proved that it could happen easily in real life too if we have the determination to go ahead and live life in our terms.

Grabbing The First Female Engineer Post In TELCO!

While Sudha was scanning the papers for job opportunities, she stumbled on a job requirement for TELCO. As she was about to apply for it, she noticed a footnote below it which stated: “female candidates need not apply.” She found that unjustifiable and immediately wrote a letter to JRD Tata questioning him on how he can show a gender bias when he heads an innovative and prime house which is said to “think ahead of time.” Much to her surprise, JRD Tata was impressed by the fire in her and immediately granted her permission to attend the interview and also offered to pay for her trip. She went on to impress the interviewing panel and grabbed the job effortlessly. She went on to join the largest auto manufacturer company, TATA in the post of a Development Engineer and served in various locations like Pune, Jamshedpur, and Mumbai.

The Pillar Of Infosys


When Sudha moved to Mumbai, Narayana approached her with the idea of Infosys. He had no money to start with and only had dreams as an asset. Sudha encouraged him and asked him to go ahead and reach out for his dreams. She gave Rs. 10,000 to Narayana as an initial investment and asked him to chase his dreams and succeed within three years. She said that she would take up the responsibility of managing the finances of their house for three years but not longer than that.

She later left her job at TELCO and joined Narayana to be the pillar of support to achieve his dreams. She took up the role of a Senior System Analyst at Walchand Group of Industries so that their financial needs will be met. In addition to that, she worked as a programmer, cook, and clerk at Infosys as it bloomed and prospered in the hard work and perseverance of Narayana and Sudha.

In addition to all this, Sudha is also one of the best-selling authors of more than 1.5 million books which is a collection of short stories, novels, travelogues, nonfiction, technical books, and children’s books. She is a well-known philanthropist who believes that money can give certain comforts, but not all. It can be a heavy bag, and hence we need to donate it to those who deserve it so that we can travel the journey of life with a lightweight soul.

Sudha is undoubtedly one of the best role models for the women of today as she proves that hard work, determination, and the grit to live life in own terms can lead you to success and help you achieve the even the unachievable!


What life with a football admirer gives you!

So, After almost an year I am writing again.

World Cup hangover is still ON. Congratulations France and Well done Croatia. Waiting for the next four years to pass! So that I can watch the game with our little champ! 🙂


Why not a fan and an admirer. Both are different. Football fan; anyone can be a fan. Anyone can support it and go on with a team. But admirer; its one who loves the game, loves the passes, praises the beauty and scolds the faults, one who knows the match to the core. Who supports a team but loves everyone else. 🙂

So what getting married to a football admirer gives you?

As he is the extreme admirer of the wonderful game football; he will be a person who takes everything in a spirit. As a game; he believes life doesn’t gives you anything granted, you have to work hard for it. He knows life is unpredictable as anything can happen in the last minute or extra time, either good or bad. Often it gives us penalty or free kick and we have to use it in the best way. Be careful that there is a goalie to stop what we are striking. He will keep a hope till the last moment and if he loses he warms up for the next game. He may wake up in the midnight or early morning to watch a game. Make a coffee and enjoy it with him. Because he know how to defend the difficulties. He know how to tackle problems. He know how to attack and clear the defenders. He will appreciate everyone’s spirit. He will appreciate everyone who deserves. Moreover you will be having a friendly rivalry at home only if you love football. We will learn to fight in laughs and appreciate each other. He will watch the game for you if you can’t. You will be having something interesting always in your life. 🙂


So love football and love someone who loves football. That’s how it is. ❤
P S : Using ManU poster only because my man loves the team, I am still for Barca 🙂
There may be different opinions for this. But this is what my life taught me. Let’s football


Two weeks before we writer friends planned to make a challenge to regain our writing skills. And today is the deadline. I wish to write alot but I m stuck up with words. Writers bloc. Still I m taking up the challenge cause I don’t want to let my people down. And yeah! Writing is my passion.

Gratitude! Gratitude is always to my parents. I would like to give a bow to them, hug them and say.. Hats off to you guys! They are the perfect example of love. They are the perfect example of Parenthood. Obviously me and my sister once thought they are rude to us. They only bought us a single new dress in an year and we have to count another 365+ days to get the next one while all my cousins managed to get three four in an year. My dad managed to fulfill our every wishes but we thought the other way. One day, while I m in school when I asked him 10 rupees and he told me to take it from his pocket. I checked his pocket to see that single 10 rupee note and I got shocked. I haven’t thought about a feeling of being poor. I thought we are rich, I wished he will be having much money in the bank something. (Really I imagined that even knowing my dad don’t have a bank account that time) and at night I heard him telling mom that we don’t have any money left and she have to wait one week to buy household things. I heard her telling him; Don’t worry and everything will be fine. That moment I realised how much my parents are struggling to put up a life for us. Now years after I am 26 and married, my sister got married and I m grateful to Almighty for giving such a strong contenders as Parents. They never ever made us feel insecure and given us the freedom they can give. They made me fly. They made me write, sing and draw. Trust me, I wouldn’t have been this much successful if I was born in some other family and for that I owe them.

Let the happiness stay and they smile forever for a long time.. Years to go!!

Thank you Sri for putting up a challenge like this. I know I have become worse with words. But I m feeling satisfied cause I wrote something..

VIKRAM VEDHA – A must watch thriller

It was the fourth Tamil movie I m watching in theatre. My previous ones includeMassu engira Masilamani which gave me worst experience, OK Kanmani which I loved and Bahubali 2 which was a wonderful experience. I guess my readers know I m weak in Tamil and I don't understand even a single sentence completely. So, I was not so excited in going for Vikram Vedha , I had seen the different looks of R. Madhavan and Vijay Sethupathi for the movie, I passed by so many reviews (haven't read any) but I was on a lag mood. My husband told me its a thriller and to say, the last Tamil thriller I saw was 'Druvangal 16'. I must mention it was an awesome movie.
So the movie started by 10.30 pm after my long tiring office and household chores. I was struggling to keep my eyes open and the movie begins.
The first thing that made me smile was the subtitles. They ran it with English subtitles and there I won. My sleep took leave for next 147 minutes. The credits rolled with the comic of Vikramadithyan and Vedhalam, the story which made us think in our childhood days. Vikram Vedha was the same. It made us think.
Its is the story of good and evil. Every moment it throws a question at us and we were confused whether to chose this or that and thats where the movie wins. It shows clearly that our life is how we assume it will be like. Our happiness, sadness, excitement everything is created by us only. Nobody is a part in that and we can't blame anyone. The film ends again with a question of who wins over who and the director left that question to us.

Vikram Vedha in one way is a typical Gangsters movie with too much twists in the plot. Its just a simple race between a police officer Vikram and gangster Vedha. But Vikram Vedha in another way is a fantastic movie which made it super fantastic by the narration, the super cool acting by Vijay Sethupathi (Vedha) and R. Madhavan (Vikram) who never let us down with their performance. R. Madhavan who is always my favourite person performed one of the best in his career yet, while Vijay Sethupathi is stunning with his expressions, acting and appearance. If you are hoping for an action drama, you will be disappointed, there is no mass fights and people flying over air. This is definitely a thriller drama. Thank you Pushkar and Gayathri for such a great one.

Its just a race with life where what we assumed as good becomes evil and the evil becomes? Definitely a confusing question!

Seven movies in single month Godha, Role Models, Thondimuthalum Driksakshiyum, Dunkirk, Sunday Holiday, Tiyaan! Mixed responses but Thondimuthalum Driksakshiyum and Vikram Vedha made our month! Taking a break from movies! More exciting things on the way!
Till then,
Happy Blogging ❤️

Little thing called HAPPINESS #3

Happiness is having your favourite snack.. Knowing that your husband will order your favourite one before you reach the table after the hectoc work.. Loving when your friends opt to have the same because you never changes the menu.. Best is when the waiter keeps your favourite on the table before you order..

My happiness is having a coffee woth my favourite snack Pazham Pori (Banana fry) with my loved ones! 

Recipe for the snack is here
I love eating ❤️

Little thing called HAPPINESS #2

Happiness is when seeing your niece write everything on her own..

Best is seeing her write, she want to become a writer in future. She knows stories and she konws how to explain it to everyone. She know the world around and she got a ton of questions with her. ❤️

My baby is growing up! 4 years down! 

Little thing called HAPPINESS #1

The feel of being obsessed with the people we admire most. The story we would love to live. The best thing to do while you are tired of the whole world and would like to live another. The magical thing. This is happiness. 

Best is when someone gifts you the whole Harry Potter series as wedding gift. You have a husband who allows you to read till midnight and don’t disturb you. And the happiness you got the feel that you can reread this whole books again and again. Love Harry Potter!! ❤️ Thanks J K Rowling.
P.S. Just trying to keep on writing! 

500 days!

She sipped the coffee and looked into his eyes. He still doesn’t show any hesitation in talking to her. He is waiting for her reply as he asked a normal question. 

‘Today also you are going to walk me to my apartment, Right?’ She asked to broke the silence between them. He smiled and walked to the bill counter. They both exited the restaurant and started walking. She could feel her heart beating so fast while they covered half the way in silence. ‘So, you don’t like me, Right? You don’t like to marry a person like me. I know!’ He was talking normally. She just looked at his face, he smiled and asked ‘What?’ 

‘You don’t know me really! I am a very different creature. Have you seen any girl like me yet. I have goals..’ 

‘Goals like?’ He broke in.

‘I want to start an NGO for street children. I want to start my own Architect firm. I want my stories to get published. I want to buy an apartment my own and live there alone.’ She took a deep breath. He is still smiling at her. ‘Who said this is all big things. These are all normal. You can do everything as your wish. But you should live in the apartment with me and our kids.’ She laughed, but still feeling the weight in her heart. ‘You don’t understand.’ She concluded the conversation and headed towards her apartment.

Back in her room, she took the phone and rewinded the chats. The books he gifted, A walk to remember and the notebook, her favourite Nicholas Sparks is smiling at her. I can’t fall in love with him. How can I? He was a great support to her for the past few months. He know all her hardships, but she don’t know much about his. He is like that only. He came to talk to her only after reading her blog, even she know him for the past one year; she also haven’t tried to talk. Last time she went for a movie with him. First time with a guy alone. She never felt anything awkward. He was clean, never shown and flirty caring drama of normal guys. He always respected her likes and dislikes. He was like a great friend to whom she can lean. But today, he looked straight into her face and told he just need her in his whole life, in happiness and sadness, as his best friend and wife. He just need her answer. She was likely to say you are just my friend. But she didn’t.

Remembering all those moments made her numb. She took the phone and texted him.

‘Do you really loves me?’

After 500 days!

He put the car key in the ignition. ‘Baby, are you sure you took everything in need?’ She got into the seat and smiled at him. ‘Ha Baba, don’t act like my husband!’ He gave the most confusing look in a playful way. She gave a peck on his cheek as he drove the car forward. They rushed through the highway in the car tagged ‘Just Married‘. 

I am sharing a half relationship story at Blogadda in association with #HalfGirlfriend

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